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So from the results of the thread on marriage. It looks like about 60+% of us cant commit or find someone(s). So for the people here whom have lucked out.

How? Share your stories of how and where you met your SO and approaches etc.

Further, for the single of us willing to step forward, maybe give our situations and see if new ideas to meet others we would be attracted to come forth.

Example:

What about peoples out of school and in work environments where there either isn't enough choice or sexual harassment looms? (And on a completely personal note, whose hobbies are unfortunately geek or redneck, and who does not drink nor dance and rarely goes to shows).

Who tries online dating, and in the 5 years of trying only 1 date came out of it. While 80% of the people who contact you are overweight (when you are not) to the degree of unattractiveness. Or Bi couples just looking for another partner. While the people you find attractive are unresponsive, or stop after a initial contact.

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Yep, PC is being redefined again and now alse a dating suggestion forum for geeky artist and programmers. :D

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  • Swizzle
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    Swizzle polycounter lvl 15
    Further, for the single of us willing to step forward, maybe give our situations and see if new ideas to meet others we would be attracted to come forth.
    I don't have a girlfriend. I've had friends who were girls, but never really got around to actively looking for that sort of relationship. When I was in my teens, it was because I was mostly around twenty-somethings and I was insecure. Now I'm 22 and I'm just not terribly interested because I have other stuff going on that I need to take care of.

    I'm not going to be very helpful in this thread, I think.
  • ZacD
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    ZacD ngon master
    Small concerts, friends of friends, internet, house parties.
  • Rens
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    hehehe, this may totaly derail what ever you had in mind, just thought id share you my story, wich might backfire someday.. fuck it

    I think its all my fault really.

    I went to school outside my own town, so i grew up without any real friends here.

    Then it kinda started in highschool. Here there are no real groups or what not, we just helt our breaks, fun and what not. People connected with people very well, but the people were totaly different from who i am, so i lost interest. (a bit of the i act like i got money and are better then you types)

    So from the start i had no friends to go out or do stuff with. So you dont meet new people and it kinda stops there.

    Then when i took up this study there were hardly any girls, and when there were some it was kind of dissapointing. I got some good friends there though, but only one i actualy visit, and funny enough he's a die hard gamer and kinda the same story.

    So yeah i ended up sitting in my room 99% of the time, making art, enjoying music, or doing silly stuff.


    I do go out for coffee alot, and the girls there start to know me well enough that, when i walk in i dont even have to ask, they make it :D

    I have no problems with going somewhere, and just starting a converstation of some kind. Mix in and talk away about crap. I seem to be quite accepted into the social groups but its my lack of interrest, or feeling better alone that i dont continue and built on these things.

    There is also this, i like older people for some reason. I can connect much better with them because they care much less about the "what can he offer me", they're just having a good time, sharing stories. So thats may be why i leave most people of my age alone, (20)

    Also i want to get a job in the us or canada, so i really keeping myself from socialising, dont get too attached to things.

    Its frustrating now and then, seeing people having fun, experiencing shit i've never, but then again.. fuck it, really.


    oeh to compleet it,
    [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x7sg9SHoFYo[/ame]
  • Mister Sentient
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    I think very often these things only happen when you feel that you are ready for them and you click with the right person. I don't think there is any secret art to it. Just be yourself.

    Not everybody feels the need to define themselves through a significant other. As great as companionship can be there is also happiness and fulfilment to be had in other pursuits. Don't feel inadequate because everyone around you seems to be happy and in relationships. Very often our perception of the way things are can be out of proportion with reality. Just my rambling thoughts.
  • Rens
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    oh i totaly agree :)
  • Taylor Hood
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    One r the lonliest number doodoododoododo

    Good song. =]
    I'm in the same position. Cause' I'm 16. Lol.
  • oXYnary
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    oXYnary polycounter lvl 18
    Rens, Aimee Mann interpretation is killer!

    (It also in Magnolia the movie- One of my favorites)

    [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-aBYzqJ0L28[/ame]
  • willy-wilson
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    just go to a starbucks or whatever barns and noble other places with a laptop and a wacom... soon enough you will have quite a few people watching and asking questions... i find its a good way to meet people imo... oh and dont just sit there actually paint something or do some 3d there or something...
  • Snefer
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    willy-wilson is right. Drawing in public is a great way to meet girls IMHO :D And if you draw THEM its even better. If you can draw atleast decent, or they will be offended instead, haha :D
  • frostymoose
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    3 dog night came to my university 2 years ago and played a free show for the school's homecoming. I was right up front and damn - those old men put on one hell of a show!
  • Swizzle
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    Drawing in public is a great way to meet girls IMHO
    This is VERY true. Everybody likes it when somebody is paying attention to them, especially if that person is paying enough attention that they'd like to draw them. For god's sake, though, don't be shy about it if you're going to use it to pick up chicks, and don't sit so far away that the only thing you can do is sort of scribble a tiny little thumbnail in your sketchbook. Sit a few yards away and don't get embarrassed when they inevitably start looking at you.

    Smile, nod, get back to drawing.

    If you're feeling really smooth, write your name and number along the edge of the drawing and leave it with 'em once you're done. But please don't leave your email address; that reeks of desperation.
  • John Warner
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    eh. if you dont have a relationship, it's because you dont want one. it's probably only because you're scared of the idea of either being in one or attempting to get one.

    I've been single for a few years now. now that i'm sorta.. getting back on the train and going out and searching for ms. right(s), I can see that the last few years have been a choice, in a sense.

    if you're a hopeless dork, then go get Ross Jefferies.
  • oXYnary
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    eh. if you dont have a relationship, it's because you dont want one. it's probably only because you're scared of the idea of either being in one or attempting to get one.

    I've been single for a few years now. now that i'm sorta.. getting back on the train and going out and searching for ms. right(s), I can see that the last few years have been a choice, in a sense.

    if you're a hopeless dork, then go get Ross Jefferies.

    Thats a little bit oversimplified and makes many assumptions. Your entitled to your opinion on the rest of us though. :)
  • poopinmymouth
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    eh. if you dont have a relationship, it's because you dont want one. it's probably only because you're scared of the idea of either being in one or attempting to get one.

    lol
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    Swizzle, the approach you have just described has just made me want to practice portraiture until I am good enough to attempt that lol!
  • Muzzoid
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    swizzle wrote:
    "This is VERY true. Everybody likes it when somebody is paying attention to them, especially if that person is paying enough attention that they'd like to draw them. For god's sake, though, don't be shy about it if you're going to use it to pick up chicks, and don't sit so far away that the only thing you can do is sort of scribble a tiny little thumbnail in your sketchbook. Sit a few yards away and don't get embarrassed when they inevitably start looking at you."

    Me and a friend were sitting in the mall sketching people once, and this dude, looked middle eastern noticed my friend was drawing him so he comes over, looks at the drawing then points at the page and exclaims "YOU'RE DRAWING ME!, your bloody drawing me". Me and this other guy are just sitting there bewildered and not sure what to do, he then starts exclaiming to everyone around us that we were drawing them, noone seemed to care. He then told my friend to erase the drawing, but it was in pen and he refused anyway. It gets so bad that he eventually calls over the mall guards, and they have no idea what the hell to do. Finally my mate tore the drawing out of his sketchbook and handed it to the man and he tore it up and threw it in his face and stormed off....


    So no not everyone likes getting drawn and its not really a problem of it being a bad drawing of him as the dude is one of australias top concept artists...


    My problem with women is that im too picky, and all the ones i do like already are taken, and im not the sort of dude to go after a woman already with a man as if they are willing to leave somone for you, there is always the chance that they will leave you for somone else.

    Oh and i have trouble relying on people, that probably has to be a big part of it.
  • EmAr
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    I am so following this thread. I think I'm in the same boat with Rens. In addition, I don't go out for coffee lol
  • Swizzle
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    carlo_c wrote: »
    Swizzle, the approach you have just described has just made me want to practice portraiture until I am good enough to attempt that lol!

    Do it, sucka!
  • willy-wilson
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    i hate coffee... i was just suggesting places. you can do this wherever really... the park, the mall. anywhere really... other things you can do are "drink and draws" stuff like that... im not of drinking age but its an idea...
  • Muzzoid
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    I run a sketchgroup at a starbucks, have been all year, hasnt helped me get any wimmenz. :|
  • NyneDown
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    There's really no secret to meeting someone...ya just wait outside their house until they get home, sneak up behind them and then duct tape their mouth shut. Hog tie them and throw her/him in the back of a van...baM! Cupid strikes again.
  • Jason Young
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    I don't know what the online dating "scene" is like these days, but that's where I met my wife about 6 years ago. I found it fairly easy to find some decent prospects. :) I always recommend people try it out, but I've seen varying success. You've gotta be willing to just go out with lots of chicks even if their profiles aren't all that interesting. It's hard to get a good read on someone from a few words.

    It's tough if you're not in school or workplace that has a lot of females. I had very few girls in my classes as they were all interior design majors and wouldn't talk to me. We have maybe 3 females at my workplace so I feel bad for my single guy coworkers.

    Good luck dude!
  • Swizzle
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    NyneDown wrote: »
    There's really no secret to meeting someone...ya just wait outside their house until they get home, sneak up behind them and then duct tape their mouth shut. Hog tie them and throw her/him in the back of a van...baM! Cupid strikes again.

    "Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"
  • aesir
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    can we stop making more threads to depress me on my polycounts?
  • oXYnary
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    Swizzle wrote: »
    This is VERY true. Everybody likes it when somebody is paying attention to them, especially if that person is paying enough attention that they'd like to draw them. For god's sake, though, don't be shy about it if you're going to use it to pick up chicks, and don't sit so far away that the only thing you can do is sort of scribble a tiny little thumbnail in your sketchbook. Sit a few yards away and don't get embarrassed when they inevitably start looking at you.

    Smile, nod, get back to drawing.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Observer_effect_%28psychology%29

    They lack the naturalness at that point if they know you are doing it. Worst is doing it on a bus. Enviably someone parks their fat ass head (or worse behind) in front of whom you were drawing. That or the bus's crappy suspension fails to cushion a pothole so they no longer had the pose you were doing (and you have a nice scraggly line across your page :) ).
  • Swizzle
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    oXYnary wrote: »
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Observer_effect_%28psychology%29

    They lack the naturalness at that point if they know you are doing it. Worst is doing it on a bus. Enviably someone parks their fat ass head (or worse behind) in front of whom you were drawing. That or the bus's crappy suspension fails to cushion a pothole so they no longer had the pose you were doing (and you have a nice scraggly line across your page :) ).

    It's soooo fun, though.
  • Vailias
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    Point 1: Don't feel like you have to be in a relationship. In the long (and sometimes very short) run that will start to smell of desperation to your intended quarry, and you'll KEEP striking out the harder you try. (man I hate all these analogies but they're so ready made) Yes we know, you're not actually desperate, but that's how it will start to come off, and its extremely unattractive to everyone but serial killers.

    Point 2: Realize that getting into a relationship IS like hunting, and there is usually a game to it all, no matter how much people of every gender and orientation say they hate the game.
    The key point to all that is you can't hunt where there isn't game. You won't bring home deer from the middle of the Sahara, and you wont find a partner in your living room (room mates notwithstanding).
    Go to coffee shops and order Tea instead, learn to dance, ie figure out what kind of people you like, then go where they are and do things they're interested in. This is part of the game, and you may find out you do like activities like these when you have the right company.

    If you truly and honestly can't be arsed to put out even that modicum of effort, try OkCupid. Its free, its scientific (matching via weighted statistical analysis of questions), and you'll likely find people you'd at least like to have as friends. Yes you'll still have to put out some effort to get to the talking and meeting part, but most of that happens at your computer, and we're all right there already right?

    point 3: DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE VALUE OF FRIENDS! especially if those friends are of similar gender and orientation to what you desire. Of all my girlfriends since early highschool about half of them have been set up with me by a mutual female friend, on top of that it was also a female friend who I had a thing for but never got into a relationship with for whatever reason. My legal primary was one of these setups, and I found my second through a different friend but wasn't set up, the relationship just grew on its own.


    As far as maintaining a relationship once you start in on one (and yes I do mean from the first date on), honesty and good old love (putting their desires/needs/wants a bit ahead of your own) will take you about as far as you want to go. And always remember that no matter what title you and your other(s) may wear they're another complete being just like you, and what attracts them to you and vice versa was qualities of person, not utility. Don't start playing the role of "boyfriend" once you get the title, your SO will notice, and the relationship will start to go downhill from there, even if neither of you can name exactly why. (girls this goes for you too)
  • rolfness
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    I reckon the best thing to do is to make friends with women and etc. to start off with

    it helps if you feel completely out of depth with the whole thing, it will also make you more comfortable , and as friends you will learn boundaries and relationship building.

    second most important thing is to also have fun and it can be hard to do at times when all you think about is getting your peanut polished.

    confidence is the key in all of this you cant go buy it off ebay and is hard to fake, if you're out having fun making friends it will come naturally in time.

    lastly dont give a fuck about what other people think
  • Jeremy Wright
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    My wife and I met each other in graduate school. We both like tattoos, computers, and are a bit odd, so we went on a date and hit it right off.

    My advice to any lonely studs out there: Don't worry about looking for the perfect mate, instead work on making yourself the perfect mate (or as good as can be expected), and you'll be better off for it.

    What good is it to meet the woman of your dreams only to be someone that she wouldn't be interested in? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying for anyone to change who they are, only to improve who you are (which should be a goal of all of ours, no matter what) and prepare yourself for a relationship through maturity and responsibility. Basically, stop acting like a dumbass kid.
  • Emil Mujanovic
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    I've been single for over three years now, which funnily coincides with how long I've been in the games industry. I don't blame work or my line of work for being single, I blame myself for being too work orientated.
    I'm trying to build up my career because I plan on heading over to Europe/US/Canada for work and don't really want to force the girl I'm with to drop everything and leave her family and friends for me.

    Having said that, I still go out with girls and if something kicks off, then I'm not going to stop it. But I'm not purposely going out of my way to find this perfect partner.
  • Ferg
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    Ferg polycounter lvl 17
    I don't know how you feel about using the interwebs to find sex, err I mean women, but since you live in seattle you might want to check out the stranger's personals page (lovelab)
  • Zotter
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    Well, at the times I was single I discovered that I found someone quickest when I wasn't looking for it. But there's a huuuuuuge difference between finding someone and finding someone that actually goes together well with you.

    I knew my bf for like a year before we even started dating, partially from the fact he was with someone at the time but we got along well enough that when I found he was broken up we started going together ourselves. It was a great match and has been so ever since, plus he's been very accomidating while I've been going to school and building my porfolio, don't worry its not all give and take.

    Though the nights when I'm pulling an all nighter and he's making me food or coffee or just giving support it really teaches me the value of companionship.

    What you don't want is someone that's bitching at you that your 3D work is taking up too much time for them. My bf's a gamer so he's just excited to see what I'll have when I'm finished. That will come in handy when I finally land a job and crunch time is creeping up.
  • Wahlgren
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    Girls girls girls. How to find them? How to get them? It´s actually very very simple. You know what you have to do? Go outside and TALK TO THEM! and sooner or later you will be hitting it off. I know it´s scary but it is the only way! Sooner or later you will have to go out and talk to a girl to get her.

    But yeah you can´t go up to a girl and say "durr youre pretty hurr hurr hurr" although it did work with my latest girlfriend. Maybe says more about her than me though. It´s aong distance thing. Kinda sucks but it gives me time to become an awesome artist...


    edit: But i guess we (lonely artists) could always go this route.
    http://www.idonowidont.com/blog/second-life-cheating-ends-in-real-life-divorce/
  • ebagg
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    I've been doing internet dating for a longggg time, it's always worked out well for me actually, I've met women I otherwise wouldn't have thru the innertubes, and every date has been a good one, because usually I've gotten pretty well acquainted with the woman before I meet her in person, at the very least each date has been a fun conversation over food and/or drinks.

    The past few years I've gotten much more outgoing by going to bars, clubs, concerts, and house parties, and striking up conversations with women. Furthermore a few years ago I started hosting my own parties, and encouraging people to bring their friends, and it has evolved from a small 12 person gathering to a 80+ person shindig, with a good 50/50 ratio of women to men, this has introduced me to women and from there I'll meet a girl I hit it off with for a date.

    Now dating just comes naturally.
  • seforin
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    ebagg wrote: »
    I've been doing internet dating for a longggg time, it's always worked out well for me actually, I've met women I otherwise wouldn't have thru the innertubes, and every date has been a good one, because usually I've gotten pretty well acquainted with the woman before I meet her in person, at the very least each date has been a fun conversation over food and/or drinks.

    The past few years I've gotten much more outgoing by going to bars, clubs, concerts, and house parties, and striking up conversations with women. Furthermore a few years ago I started hosting my own parties, and encouraging people to bring their friends, and it has evolved from a small 12 person gathering to a 80+ person shindig, with a good 50/50 ratio of women to men, this has introduced me to women and from there I'll meet a girl I hit it off with for a date.

    Now dating just comes naturally.

    au pairs dont count! There like a Gamble card man! Here being awesome one minute and then BOOM gone and somewhere in Europe the next!
  • Snight
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    I have a very large penis. So naturally women are drawn to me. I picked the best one, and now we're married.
  • PixelMasher
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    [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iE29zKe-dU[/ame]

    is it a wonder this guy died of aids?.....what a pimp. such respect for the ladies :P
  • John Warner
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    poop - lol yes, lol no? Throw me a bone here dude

    Oxy -- sorry, I wasn't trying to be judgmental.. this is how i see human beings functioning. it's not a personal thing... more of a belief about human behavior at it's core. here's how i see it:

    maybe you don't meet people because you're shy or hesitant. --> meeting people = pain.

    maybe you can't commit because --> commitment = heartbreak or something. pain.

    maybe you can't attract someone similar to yourself because you think you're a loser --> self exposure = pain

    I had a REALLY weird one where i didn't want to stop growing, so i didn't like to meet people who showed me myself "as i am" -- self acceptance = pain.

    counter example --? -- really, if you break this for me i'd be happy. I mean seriously Oxy - why aren't you in a relationship? I really would like to know.

    I guuuueesss I might agree that there are some things that maybe you could just be doing that are fucking you up.. but even the most pathetic, homely, gentleman in the world doesn't turn EVERYONE off. --- "be yourself" -- does it work or not?

    also, you could certainly make the argument that you haven't met the right person.. Although I tend to find that you attract the right people into your life. I mean, I'm certainly finding that more and more and more.

    I suppose it is possible to just look in the wrong place.
  • Vailias
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    "Just BEE yourself!"
  • Zotter
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    Vailias wrote: »
    "Just BEE yourself!"

    hah! I lol'd :D
  • poopinmymouth
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    poop - lol yes, lol no? Throw me a bone here dude

    lol because it's ridiculous.

    Here we can easily extrapolate your idea further.

    Darfurian war orphans starve to death because A) they don't want food badly enough, or B) there is such a thing as a situation where the right attitude cannot do shit.

    If you say A, well, we can all lol at you. If you say B then we can easily move back to the original situation and say there are times where someone both honestly would like a partner but cannot find a compatible one.
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    Just ask 'em what that smell like...

    [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0dJu1Jj7VTw[/ame]

    and if that doesnt work, inform them that you're looking for some pussy, some cunt and some butthole.
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    I pretty much agree with Notorius P.I.G, just freaking talk to them. Dont know about you other guys here but Im pretty young and not looking specially for that "perfect" partner. Im telling you people, shag as much as you can while you still can. Go out have a great time and score a lot. Im 21 btw. Good hunting!
  • Josh_Singh
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    Try going to a church. Chicks there are always looking to get hitched.
  • Mark Dygert
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    Muzz wrote: »
    I run a sketchgroup at a starbucks, have been all year, hasnt helped me get any wimmenz. :|
    It's because you're in a pack. No one likes walking up to a group and possibly being rejected by a large number of people.
  • Jeremy Wright
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    --- "be yourself" -- does it work or not?

    If 'yourself' is an immature asshole or a petty jerkwad neckbeard, then no.

    If 'yourself' is a 'insert interest here' nerd, then yes.

    The benefit of being yourself is that you get what you need. If you're a dick, everyone will avoid you, which is what you need. If you're not, then the people who share your interests will want to be around you.

    Opposites may attract, but similars have a more stable future and typically get along better.
  • Ferg
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    counter example --? -- really, if you break this for me i'd be happy. I mean seriously Oxy - why aren't you in a relationship? I really would like to know.

    Having a significant other significantly reduces your personal freedom. Not in a bad way, if you're in a place in life where you're ok with that. I like not having to coordinate my schedule with anyone. It also makes it a lot more difficult to flirt with girls at bars and coffee shops, etc.

    Also, I've found you're much more likely to meet someone when you're NOT looking. Do you really want your girlfriend to be attracted to the "looking to get hooked up" version of yourself, or the normal you?

    Chicks are crazy anyway.
  • ebagg
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    seforin wrote: »
    au pairs dont count! There like a Gamble card man! Here being awesome one minute and then BOOM gone and somewhere in Europe the next!

    Ummmm I fail to see how dating foreign women doesn't count as dating, a lot of au pairs stay in the states once they're done with the program. But personally I like dating them because they aren't interested in something long term! :D
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    slipsius mod
    -When friends ask you to go somewhere, stop saying no, you`d rather stay in. Get out of your comfort zone and leave your house. Met my girlfriend at a going away party, that we both said, you know what, ill go just for a bit. see how it is.

    -Stop looking. all the girlfriends ive had, i got when i stopped looking. When you stop looking, you start being yourself. Hard habit to break, i know. but its true. When you look, you change how you act around people you think you might have a chance with.

    -when all else fails.... Liquid Courage. cant go wrong with alcohol! ;)
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