Best Dating sites
polycounter lvl 18
Hey, this is general after all. What sites have you that have gone this route had the most luck on*?
-Match seems superficial with pictures being the main interest.
-Chemistry is spamming my box with at least 3 messages a day about joining and people looking at my profile (even though nothing really on it beyond the questionnaire/character type).
-Okcupid. Not much luck and really has become a poly place. Not I have a problem with polies, its just not my thing.
-Plenty of Fish wasn't well organized or had details.
Oh and before it's mentioned. Fuck Facebook. I'm not putting my info on that nor sucked into it.
*When I say luck, I don't mean getting laid. I mean at least finding people who might be more inclined to attempting relationships if they liked one another.
-Match seems superficial with pictures being the main interest.
-Chemistry is spamming my box with at least 3 messages a day about joining and people looking at my profile (even though nothing really on it beyond the questionnaire/character type).
-Okcupid. Not much luck and really has become a poly place. Not I have a problem with polies, its just not my thing.
-Plenty of Fish wasn't well organized or had details.
Oh and before it's mentioned. Fuck Facebook. I'm not putting my info on that nor sucked into it.
*When I say luck, I don't mean getting laid. I mean at least finding people who might be more inclined to attempting relationships if they liked one another.
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She'd kick your ass.
polyamorous: multiple lovers
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Everything has become about money, so pay AOL and get on those chats seems to be the only cheapest option. Haven't tried to snatch me another chick because I just dumped her 2 months ago, so (3 years later, L.D.R. just don't work). So make sure you snatch a local chick, less expensive & more fun.
Otherwise best of luck if your serious as I don't feel PC is the best place to be asking this but, maybe you won't get too many derailing posts.
@DKK lol
And yep, they are funny posts though.
EDIT: Oh and I'm getting a nickel for every click of those above sites.
Plenty of fish is somewhat better for searching, but the site's just so poorly set up that it's not worth the effort.
i've also met some really strange people, though...
I've met some cool people on OkC too. It's neat!
I think my dad uses PlentyOfFish. I call it PlentyOffish.
ah ah
I like their match, friend, enemy breakdown and the search filters. Plenty of people I find interesting on there, just waiting till I move a bit more south and urban to bother contacting others.
Tits, contact information, a condensed history...that's basically all you need right?
I feel dirty, like I've been abused without really knowing whats happened!!!
I thought you were mine Zac
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Go get em big guy.
There's always adultfinder, you sexy fuck. Don't you go telling me you ain't going out there for some action.
Boy oh boy do I love being able to tell that story.
Hell, maybe they would eat you afterwords, so you would become part of them.
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edit; oh and why Craigslist fails..
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you can meet people literally ANYWHERE. the problem is you might be looking too hard.
keep in mind that you do need a little money to make girls happy though...
Problem is these days theres seems to be no end of whats possible on the net and those that have been hiding behind a screen for a while think they can solve the loneliness problem through the internet.
nothing beats getting out there meeting people, at first the majority seem like a waste of time or even assholes but it will get better over time as you get more accustomed to interacting with people. That was the problem that I had.
good luck to ya
just like when doing art, you should get out of your comfort zone every once in a while!
Story time;
I met my girl 6 years ago... on MySpace (keep reading!).
Prior to that, I had been a meet a girl, have fun, lose interest type of guy and even then, I was never really super confident and meeting those girls just sort of came about from everyday life.I always wanted a proper relationship though.
Then out of nowhere, I meet this girl on MySpace, just a random friend request. We get talking on IM, turns out she lives 5 minutes from me and our social network (the real life one) is pretty much connected already. I had friends that were friends with her friends etc, so if id have just been more social in the first place, id have met here eventually anyway!
Anyway, 6 years later, we're engaged, got a house, going strong.
Just don't look too hard, dont worry about it, and get out there. I guarantee, within a year you'll be settling down and all without the help of Mark Zuckerberg or eCupid or whatever else.
Uh-oh, you said the g-word! *gets in a poop-proof bunker*
I know plenty of happy couples who met online, don't dismiss it if you havent tried it
HAHAHAHAH. I love you Per.
I met my husband on www.gayromeo.com but it doesn't really help women or straight men. I met a few nice dates through OKC as well. I think it's good to mix up online dating sites and going out to locations that you enjoy. Don't go to places that you dislike but think would be good to meet people, because the people you meet are most likely people who enjoy that place or type of thing. (IE, if you hate bars, don't go to one just to meet people, because chances are the ones you meet there really like the bar-scene)
I dunno, people like going out into public for all sorts of reasons, and outside of 1:30 at a bar, you can't be sure people are looking for romance. So while it's perfectly possible to meet dates and eventual spouses in person, and I think everyone should be open to meeting people when they are out and about, I understand wanting to use sites where people can be much more specific and up front about whether they just want friends in life right now, or whether they want to get married and already have a dog/kid/house etc. Takes a lot of the stress out of dating if you can already see if any of your "deal-breakers" are present or not.
Have a profile on the sites you enjoy, but don't stress out about them or push meeting through them.
Go out and be open to new personal relationships with people you interact with, but don't be desperate.
Best of all, let your friends know that you are single and interested in no longer being single, and they might know people who would make a good match, if even for just a single coffee date.
Theres also a few dating sites that art artist specific. Although I think its probably limiting your choice in a way. But a good way to find like minded creatives maybe.
http://www.singleartistdating.com/
Fucking lol!
ROFL!
(you sure seem to know a lot of the codes though.)
Yes. Meet a few, but always ALWAYS meet in a public space in a way that's easy to excuse your way out of. Lunchtime works well because you can always use "oh shit work called" as an excuse to duck out early if you need to. I normally try to set up a lunch date where my evening is free, and use it just as a way to quickly make sure the person is 1. accurate to what they portrayed in their profile (photos, personality description, etc) and 2. Not a serial killer. If I have a good time, I can extend the date longer, or ask if they want to meet up again that evening.
You will definitely meet some creepers on there. I went through a small handful of women that were 'okay' at first, but then quickly jumped to talking about nothing but sex, how many men they've been with, their entire sexual past, etc. I managed to luck out and find someone who, quite frankly, makes every other woman I've been with just seem like a waste of time.
Those of you hating on online dating should probably be a little more open minded. I was very skeptical about it, at first. However, I had just moved to a new area, left all of my friends behind, my girl at the time cheated, 'shitstorm' etc. I've never been one to go to bars alone. I go to bars, sure... with friends. The likelihood of finding a meaningful relationship out of a bar meet is unlikely, in my eyes.
Online dating allows you to get to know a lot of the facts (if they're honest) about a person, before even sparking up a conversation. i.e. "I would probably not get along with this person, because she's a religious zealot." or "Yeah, stoner, nothnx."
I dunno... worked out for me and many other people I've known. Hell, I know people who have started their family from online dating. It's a new world!
tl;dr? online dating rocks. also... penis.
I met my wife via Match, which I agree is very image-oriented. I really wanted that, though - I'm a guy, I know what I like, and it was easier to sort out the tons of girls I wasn't interested in than getting involved in an online relationship before finding out she didn't do it for me. The system also requires people to fill out their own profiles, which I liked - you can get a good sense of how smart someone is, or what their sense of humor is like, by reading their own words. And like Geezus said, it keeps you (and them) from wasting time trying to start a relationship with someone who has incompatible philosophies/lifestyles/whatever.
My experience is from back in 2006, so it might have changed a bit, but probably not much. The best thing about online dating IMO is that you already know that anyone you have contact with is also looking for a relationship. Hanging out in bars and clubs specifically trying to meet girls gets you in front of a lot of girls who are already dating, who aren't interested in a realtionship, etc. I'm not much for that kind of "let's find a mate" socializing anyway, so having a system where girls were as interested in meeting me as I was in meeting them was a big plus.
I didn't want to be a dick, so I gave her roses, bought her dinner, told her my stomach hurt, and GTFO.
Never bothered with dating sites after that.
hey Kaburan...hahaha thats a good one mate!