Men of War is an RTS, but you can pause at any time, or slow things down. For me, it captured a lot of what made X-Com fun-- a lot more than JA2 for example.
valkyria chronicles: the thing with that one for me is that it is not strictly turn-based. sadly they diluted it with pointless action elements and it lacks a little gameplay depth on the battlefield, shame. :( xcom2 - terror from the deep seems to have been the finest example of this genre so far? i loved the murky…