dealing with the death of a friend...
ngon master
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/beds/bucks/herts/7677385.stm
i knew Gemma, through a mutual friend, and we hung out fairly regularly. i actually only heard about this today, and it's put me in such an awful mood.
i dunno what to do, really... i didn't know her well enough to grieve the way some people do. but i knew her enough to care, and to want to help her family.
from my own point of view, i feel really messed up and angry, and feel like "an eye for an eye" kinda thing... but i know that wouldn't help either.
i just want to do... SOMETHING. but i don't know what
/end vent on the net (oh the irony...)
i knew Gemma, through a mutual friend, and we hung out fairly regularly. i actually only heard about this today, and it's put me in such an awful mood.
i dunno what to do, really... i didn't know her well enough to grieve the way some people do. but i knew her enough to care, and to want to help her family.
from my own point of view, i feel really messed up and angry, and feel like "an eye for an eye" kinda thing... but i know that wouldn't help either.
i just want to do... SOMETHING. but i don't know what
/end vent on the net (oh the irony...)
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If you really need something to do, maybe a piece of art with her as the theme might be a cathartic release.
I hope the shitbag who did this gets all he deserves.
I think other forms of expression, like art, poetry, or music are also cool. There's nothing you can do to undo her death, but there are other ways to comfort.
I'm with ya man, I lost a friend a couple of months ago to a car accident and had to put my cat Wilma of 22 years down over the weekend. I've been really moody and depressed as of late as a result. We all grieve differently and I think it's important to not question how you feel. Just because you didn't know someone very well, doesn't mean you can't cry your eyes out and vice versa. It would be nice to try to do a portrait of some sort of her or maybe you could make a contribution in her name to a charity she would have liked.
Also, I'm with Sectaurs, I hope that fucker pays.
That's a great idea.
Sorry for your loss and to hear about someone so young dying like that. I'd say take some solace in knowing she's at peace now and do what you can to support the people around you who knew her.
it was her favorite piece of music, and she wanted to be married to it, so i and the three other friends performing it thought we should send her off to it. it's a happy tune...
i think i'm still in shock, i don't feel sad, just angry right now.
Zach Cox was the art director at Santa Cruz Games for a while, just recently made the move to Activision I think.
http://www.cogswell.edu/news/151.html
Something similar happened to me 12 years back. A female friends I'd known for years was brutally raped, tortured and murdered over 12 hours in her home(hit the national news etc ). It screwed me up for a while as I was the last person to see her alive in public. All I can say is that the pain subsides in time and how I found a way through it was to put it all into my art and music. Someone never dies as long as you remember them.
So I can understand what sort of a time your having right now...chin up dude.
Wayne...
That should be an awesome tribute. Good luck with it and try not to stay too angry. I believe one way or another, that guy will get his returns.
Just gotta grieve and move forward, sadly.