When opening someone else's .max file, it uses their settings (ie 2 default lights instead of my 1). Then when I start a new project it will also keep those settings.
How do I open these files whilst keeping all of my preferences?
If you set up a scene how you like and save it to the 3dsmax scenes folder as "maxstart.max" it will load that scene every time you launch max or "reset". That won't force your settings on another persons file, you would probably have to script that yourself... but that should keep their settings from sneaking into your workflow.
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Check the maxscript user reference and search for the kind of things you want to set.
If this is too tricky, reply here with the kind of things you want to set and I can try to assist you.