R.I.P Picchi
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I dont know why im posting here, anyway, our baby ferret , 8 months died today in a household accident , envolving the washing machine, it was the cuttest thing ever, it was like a small child , always stealing our shoes , and dragging my wallet to her hidden places. My girfriend prefers to believe it didnt happen , she even went to the washing machine to remove the remaining clothing , she found some blood and it distrubed her...and me... And no i dont think it was negligence, the maid was putting the clothes in the washing machine, but didnt notice she was there sleeping...thanks guys , we are in shock and very saddened.
heres an image of our girl while she was snooping inside my backpack.
we miss you
heres an image of our girl while she was snooping inside my backpack.
we miss you
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I had 2 ferrets for a while. They loved to climb in a small crevice near the dish washer.. They really like dangerous appliances.
edit* whoa spain- I`m guessing its probably a cultural thing. I wish I had a maid, then again after reading this story maybe I dont 0_o
My girlfriend is dealing with it pretty bad, i think she might have entered a state of "complicated grief"
" Complicated grief
The sadness of losing someone you love never goes away completely, but it shouldn’t remain center stage. If the pain of the loss is so constant and severe that it keeps you from resuming your life, you may be suffering from a condition known as complicated grief. Complicated grief is like being stuck in an intense state of mourning. You may have trouble accepting the death long after it has occurred or be so preoccupied with the person who died that it disrupts your daily routine and undermines your other relationships.
Symptoms of complicated grief include:
* Intense longing and yearning for the deceased
* Intrusive thoughts or images of your loved one
* Denial of the death or sense of disbelief
* Imagining that your loved one is alive
* Searching for the person in familiar places
* Avoiding things that remind you of your loved one
* Extreme anger or bitterness over the loss
* Feeling that life is empty or meaningless
"
I know this might sound a tad weird, but it was like a child and here in spain i work at home and dont socialize much cause of work, and all my friends are in portugal , she has the university friends, but most of them are empty people that only care about smoking weed and themselves , so needless to say it was us 3 , and one of them died a horrible way...im sorry to write this much ,i just need to get it off my chest. thank you guys.
EDIT : konstruct, well its someone who comes 2 hours per week to help me out tead up my loft :P shes a wonderfull person ,and was also shocked about this...
On the plus side, that is a sweet photo.
sorry for your loss.
My 2 cents is get new maid and new ferret. Do something extra nice for your girl on Vday.
After some time passes maybe bring up getting another to your lady. Sounds like you two really enjoyed the company.
good luck bro.
- J
wait...the maid?
To be clear, because I'm getting my ass handed to me in another discussion, I feel bad for the animal. It's a terrible way to go. I've wanted a ferret for some time. They're cute, and fun. But there are reasons why I can't have them as a pet. I don't find any delight in the death of any creature. When you've owned a dog for many years, one that has become a part of a large caring family, and watch it suffer with very old age, to have it put down in your arms, and bury it yourself...you know what grief is after the loss of a pet. You take the next couple days slowly, and move on. Find the next pet, and give it your attention.
I think you two need to push on. Reflect. Take a deep breath. Go out. If the gal isn't 99% in a week...seek therapy.
-Buddikaman
buddikaman wtf man?
johny. we lost a kitten the same way when I was a kid. much sympathy from me
It will be easier in time I suppose.
buddikaman , yeah you have a point , but i dont have much time to wash 75square meters of floor, nor cleaning every single furniture, nor clean the mess i left in the kitchen , i am too busy studying , working and per sending me boob shots
thanks everyone, we also planned to get another one, not exactly now, but maybe later when we feel ready . Too bad they are forbiden in portugal tho :S
Spark
hope you feel better soon:(
-Buddikaman
Some fucked up shit here as well, sad to know that people go thru this daily with their loved ones , and it only hit me when it happened to me like this...im sure everyone feels like that too...
We went today to the city, watched a movie , had a nce dinner and lunch , but when we started making the puzzle we were doing before she started with all crazy shit like if she is ok , and if she is scared and misses us "their parents" , she took a real bond with picchi , and she keeps saying she misses her, and the house is emptier , she has also good moments when she is ok, then she can break down the other, sometimes i dont know what to answer to what she says, i believe she has a severe trauma...its so much shit to deal on my life, now this..fuck...
well, time for me to help her and do some art.
That said, I may or may not have info on the old sick cunt who poisons dogs in the neighborhood and I may or may not extract revenge on their person.
/disclaimer
t4pan, it would be a shame if karma were to pay her back some some "unforeseen calamities" like a bag of burning dog shit on her front doorstep (although that's probably too kind).
t4pan, that's fucked up! If you know who the person is, at the very least I'm sure you have some legal recourse, of course no one (except a judge) would blame you if you took things farther. I've lost a few family members over the years and a handful of pets all to natural causes. I can't imagine how it would be to have any of them suffer due to someones intentional misdeeds. The sadness over the loss would be hard enough but the rage, that would be hard to contain...
Give your girl some time, I guess she's taking it harder than you expected. It may not be exactly what you need right now with the stresses of study and work, but just give her the support she needs. There may come a time when you'll need that from her as well.
Oh and Per sends you boob shots? WTB per's MSN.
Best of luck, mate.
-caseyjones
t4pan , i really think that you must have gone thru hell , and i really hope that sick fuck gets what he deserves , and then some anal rape without lube.No seriously what kind of fucktard can do that thing to other people's animals.
robioto : i think she is now definately recovering , for good, im still worried for her, she was also very supportive with me.
Vig : thanks man. Funny, i actually told her that...;)
Casey : yeah its hard , its like stress dose nr 3 , but i feel if i overcome this all ill be invincible, like boris.
thank you all, im really touched how people help out eachother in need
P.S - casey ur avatar made me burst out laughing , thanks.
P.S. I recommend pet insurance for anyone with pets. It's cheap and covers a lot. After my incident, I immediately bought it as the whole ordeal almost wiped me out financially.