Can't have fun playing games anymore, everything becomes competitive.
polycounter lvl 3
I have been struggling a lot the past months to just sit down and enjoy a game (mainly multiplayer games). I am that type of guy that wants to be better than everyone, i hate loosing and when i can't do what i expected of myself i get really angry and it ruins the experience. Now that i think about it, i have always been this way just not to such an extreme.
I remember when i was young, i was telling myself i would never swear... Then came the games and my insane mentality..
Do you guys have similar "issues" and how do you cope with them.
I remember when i was young, i was telling myself i would never swear... Then came the games and my insane mentality..
Do you guys have similar "issues" and how do you cope with them.
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Personally, I actively avoid competitive multiplayer games. I hate losing that much. I enjoy co-op/single player games just fine too, so that's how I choose to fill my free time at the moment.
I only play games that have an end. Finish the single player campaign then move on.
Honestly what is it with you? Seems as though everybody here needs therapy or has some mental ailment.
My diagnosis is that you are a Meat M.D.; and you are in a state of malpractice.
LOGGIE24
I would step back and stop playing these sort of games, they are most time consuming and yield no actual rewards.
I myself had been using profanity when playing these online multiplayer games, and I find such language deplorable.
I spent many hours trying to be an exemplary fellow in game, when I should have been drawing dudes.
Also these sort of titles attract really unsavory types who ruin the experience for others.
There really is nothing to gain from these sort of games; why not play some games from days of yore, and make some fellows instead.
I've seen this rift growing between single player and multiplayer preference over the past couple of years. I wonder how much of it is because of the communities/player base, more than anything. There seems to be hesitation in automatically adding voice chat to games these days, which I agree with; I think more games need to try different, creative ways of communicating. But right now my preference is actually for Nintendo, even though it's not really a good compromise (blacking out communication)-- I just find playing MP games in peace such a better experience.
I don't go around saying it though as i would be considered a dick haha
If you play single player games your always top player, problem solved? or do you need to feel your better than other players/people? Joa hit the nail not that it is about enjoying games its the need for acceptance / recognition? your desiring, probably. I am not a therapist, this is unlicensed professional opinion only.
If you look at some of the games the Asian community plays (youtube), anyone not on that level just doesn't have a chance tbh, there are some insane levels in some of those idk how they do it but hey its awesome to look at, they probably think any of the other produced games are easy mode.
Joke. I feel ya, it's one of the reasons I quit playing MOBAs a while back. I would never be quite good enough, and frustration spoiled the fun. Plus you have massive abuse in every single game from Russian kids and I wasn't gonna keep doing that to myself.
Honestly, just step away. It's not your job, it's not your life, you can stop and come back to it later if you want. If something in your life is souring your day, DROP IT. You can, it's actually pretty easy, and you'll feel much better.
I don't cope either I just avoid multiplayer focused games unless I'm playing with friends. Its a lot less stressful with friends around.
I think that's a more healthy attitude to have, really. You don't have to prove anything to anybody by playing videogames. It's not supposed to be a test you have to be perfect at. Just be content with the frags you get, enjoy the things you do manage to pull of, and maybe try and take less stupid risks, that tends to help avoid annoying deaths in games.
If you're playing a class based game, try and pick a support class, they can be very enjoyable to play. Or maybe try such a game and see if there are alternative ways to enjoy yourself in games.
played it for 6 years and I'm not an excellent player by any means. I just play to enjoy and wind down from work.
I rarely play FFA because I'll never be the first in the leaderboard, so I play Capture the Flag or Clan Arena so that if my team wins, I feel like I've accomplished something
So I guess play team games, not competitive 1 vs 1?
There are artists right now who are practicing their art. They are taking extra online courses in their free time to expand their skills. They are going over all of those seemingly boring but oh so important art fundamentals, again and again.
What are you doing to keep up with those guys? Are you in it to win it? You bet! Get frustrated, get angry... then get cracking!
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handle losing. Its a very common playertype. (Killer, Achiever, Socializer, Explorer, Trader) Most people are a mix of multiple types.
The die hard killer archetypes care only about winning over others and display of dominance, they can play the same weapons / heroes for many matches without getting tired of it, they like to play the most optimal way that enables them winning. You can try control the frustration, remember that rage over something does not change it and that rage and an unstable mind makes you play worse, thus creating more rage and reducing your play further, a death spiral. Try keeping in mind that staying calm will highen your win chances. Depends on which game you play, but in games like Dota2, Attitude can make 20%+ of your ranking. Staying positive and speaking with your team in positive matter and encouraging them can win you many matches. Try thinking about attitude as much as a skill as aim or map awareness, it is big part of your skillset and defines your skill level as a player.
If you main goal is being better than the others, remember yourself that staying calm makes you better than the others.
You can also play COOP games which cause reduced rage but you still can be better than the others in the team.
Vermintide, Killing Floor etc
also did you just make this up? "Attitude can make 20%+ of your ranking." how do you know this? any sources?
The attitude thing is from my experience over the topic. Also we have known for thousands of years that Wars are big part psychological and this holds for games too. Morale can have way higher impact than individual mechanical skill. Many people assume that mechanical skill is most there is to mastering a game which could not be further from the truth. (Actually I may write an text about that)
To answer your question about the achiever, the achiever wants to win as accomplishment, the Killer mainly wants to show others and himself that he is the better player, do as well as possible and feel good about himself (...). As winning is often closely tied to dominance this often goes hand in hand (most games reward doing very well with winning) , that does not mean a player that wants to win his games is much of an achiever.
I myself am mostly Explorer then Killer with a mix of the rest, its very easy to spot.
It is understandable why casual gamers stay away from multiplayer pvp games, because most people who play multiplayer are competitive. Take for instance: Dead by Daylight. It doesn't really seem like a game that people would take too seriously, but there are people who go to great lengths to try and be better than other people. And that simply raises the bar, even for casuals... if they want to stick around, they simply have to put with the fact that their opponents will do whatever it takes to win. Thus, making the game less enjoyable.