Yeah, kids are really hard! In this one the eyes and the softness of the face while holding the structure will be a challenge. Looks like you nailed the legs. This will be interesting to follow.
Working with default soft particles first. When I've got the movement and timing down, I'll move to the particles themselves. Buildup + some idle time:
Unity comes with a tree creator package, in that they have a shader for a double sided material. Nature/Tree Soft Occlusion Leaves. Probably not a permanent fix though.
Not all women are soft and squidgy. The world is full of women with strong chins and all the better for it, I say. Keep it up, Mate. It's coming along well.